Ten signs you have a High Level of Emotional Intelligence.

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Contributed by

Ms Aaliya Masoodi

Emotional intelligence as Dr Travis Bradberry illustrates is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behaviour, navigates social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.

Despite the implication of EQ, its metaphysical nature makes it very hard to know how much you have and what you can do to improve if you’re lacking. You can always take scientifically validated tests to further discern yourself. Unfortunately, we live in an industrialized world where taking care of oneself is the last priority one can hold.

1. You have an athletic emotional language:All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur. As per Dr Travis, their research shows that only 36% of people can do this, which is problematic because unlabeled emotions often go misunderstood, which leads to irrational choices and counterproductive actions.People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so.

2. You’re interested in people’s talks:It doesn’t matter if they’re introverted or extroverted, emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. This novelty is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ. The more you care about other people and what they’re going through, the more interest you’re going to have in them.

3. You recognize your stability and shortcomings:Emotionally intelligent species don’t just comprehend emotions; they know what they’re decent at and what they’re bad at. Having a high EQ means you feel your strengths and you know how to kneel into them and use them to your full benefit while keeping your weakacks from holding you back.

4. You’re a decent judge of identity:Much of emotional intelligence comes down to social understanding; the aptitude to read other people, understand what they’re going through. Over time, as Dr Travis says, “This skill makes you an exceptional judge of character”.  People are no dilemma to you.

5. You are hard to provoke:If you have a strong understanding of who you are, it’s very hard for someone to say or do something that makes you mad because your self-confident and open-minded doesn’t let you down. You get this feeling of having accomplished so much in life that objection appears as attention to you.

6. You let go of mistakes:Emotionally intelligent people alienate themselves from their missteps but do so without ignoring them. By keeping their mistakes at a safe distance, yet still handy enough to refer to, they can modify and adjust for future success.

8. You neutralize toxic people:Dealing with complicated people is frustrating and exhausting for most. High EQ individuals control their dealing with toxic people by keeping their impressions in the inspection. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. Even when things are destroyed, emotionally intelligent people could exit the toxicity without allowing them down.

9. You don’t strive for perfection: Emotionally intelligent people won’t set perfection as their mark because they are aware that it doesn’t exist. When perfection is your motive, instead of moving forward,  you’re constantly left with a sense of disappointment that makes you want to give in or lessen your effort.

10. You get sufficient sleep:It’s difficult to exaggerate the dignity of sleep to increasing your emotional intelligence and managing your stress levels. Psychology says, When you sleep, your brain recharges, shuffling through the day’s memories and storing or discarding them (which causes dreams) so that you wake up alert and clearheaded. High-EQ individuals know that their self-control, attention, and memory are all reduced when they don’t get enough — or the right kind — of sleep. So, they make sleep a top priority.                                             Bringing it all together:As you train your brain by repeatedly practising new emotionally intelligent  behaviours, it creates the footpaths needed to formulate them into habits.